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5/14/2009 6:04 PM The Dilemma... (10 Comments)
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The Dilemma...
A ship sank in a Storm. Five survivors scrambled aboard two lifeboats: a sailor, a girl, and an old man in one boat; the girl’s fiancé and his best friend in the second.
That evening the storm continued, and the two boats separated. The one with the sailor, the girl, and the old man washed ashore on an island and was wrecked.
The next day the weather cleared, and still the girl could not locate her fiancé. In the distance she saw another island. Hoping to find her fiancé, she begged the sailor to repair the boat and row her to the other island. The sailor agreed, on the condition that she slept with him that night.
Distraught, she went to the old man for advice. “I can’t tell you what’s right or wrong for you,” he said. “Look into your heart and follow it.” Confused but desperate, she agreed to the sailor’s condition.
The next morning the sailor fixed the boat and rowed her to the other island. Jumping out of the boat, she ran up the beach into the arms of her fiancé. Then she decided to tell him about the previous night. In a rage he pushed her aside and said, “Get away from me! I don’t want to see you again!” Weeping, she started to walk slowly down the beach.
Her fiancé’s best friend saw her and went to her, put his arm around her, and said, “I can tell that you two have had a fight. I’ll try to patch it up, but in the meantime I’ll take care of you.”
Now, can you rank order the five characters in the story from 1 (the person you liked most or valued most) to 5 (the person you liked or valued least) and give reasons for your preferences?
That evening the storm continued, and the two boats separated. The one with the sailor, the girl, and the old man washed ashore on an island and was wrecked.
The next day the weather cleared, and still the girl could not locate her fiancé. In the distance she saw another island. Hoping to find her fiancé, she begged the sailor to repair the boat and row her to the other island. The sailor agreed, on the condition that she slept with him that night.
Distraught, she went to the old man for advice. “I can’t tell you what’s right or wrong for you,” he said. “Look into your heart and follow it.” Confused but desperate, she agreed to the sailor’s condition.
The next morning the sailor fixed the boat and rowed her to the other island. Jumping out of the boat, she ran up the beach into the arms of her fiancé. Then she decided to tell him about the previous night. In a rage he pushed her aside and said, “Get away from me! I don’t want to see you again!” Weeping, she started to walk slowly down the beach.
Her fiancé’s best friend saw her and went to her, put his arm around her, and said, “I can tell that you two have had a fight. I’ll try to patch it up, but in the meantime I’ll take care of you.”
Now, can you rank order the five characters in the story from 1 (the person you liked most or valued most) to 5 (the person you liked or valued least) and give reasons for your preferences?
6/14/2009 3:00 PMRe: The Dilemma...
No 1 - The girl, who "sacrificed herself" to be reunited with her love one. Some reading this might think "w**re" or "s*ut" but to me she offered all that she had for her loved one, what greater gift is there?
No 2 - The best frend who was able to see that the girl was hurting and offered comfort and his help in resolving the problem.
No 3 - The Old Man, who offered the girl solid advice, the result of his wisdom learned over a long life but failed to offer any help beyond his wisdom .
No 4 - The young sailor. He didn't help the girl without conditions but when he received what he asked for, he did carry out his end of the bargain by fixing the boat and taking the girl to the island.
No 5 - The fiance's inability to understand the desperation his girlfriend felt to find him, his lack of understanding, his lack of compassion and the fact that he put his feelings before her's, all makes him the lowest ranking person of the 5 in my eyes.
No 2 - The best frend who was able to see that the girl was hurting and offered comfort and his help in resolving the problem.
No 3 - The Old Man, who offered the girl solid advice, the result of his wisdom learned over a long life but failed to offer any help beyond his wisdom .
No 4 - The young sailor. He didn't help the girl without conditions but when he received what he asked for, he did carry out his end of the bargain by fixing the boat and taking the girl to the island.
No 5 - The fiance's inability to understand the desperation his girlfriend felt to find him, his lack of understanding, his lack of compassion and the fact that he put his feelings before her's, all makes him the lowest ranking person of the 5 in my eyes.
8/4/2009 6:48 PMRe: Re: The Dilemma...
Thanks for your remarks, Dawn. I dare not differ with you... for obvious reasons ;-P , but a few of my 'friends' had opinions contrary to these common beliefs.
'Girl' mostly got the highest ranking especially when it came from a woman. ;0)
Some with a business acumen rated the sailer the highest and the girl lowest, for a reason that the sailor had a professional outlook towards life and believed in 'give & take'; but also lived up to his promise even by putting his life at stake. The girl at lowest because she was accepted as an emotional fool in pure business terms.
Some from this side of the hemisphere sensed a double meaning and therefore smelled something fishy in the friend's words.
Some didn't accept the fiance to be put at the bottom, according to whom any man with self-esteem will firstly react no different. (someone rated him one for similar reasons, mind you). So, it wasn't all so bad about the fiance.
Some rated the old man at the top as he showed utter selflessness in giving the right most advice, apt for the occasion, to an adult woman. Can you think of any better advice under the given situation?
At the end we all felt that there was no right and no wrong in this story and it all depended on how people looked at it.
Hope you're doing fine! Haven't spoken with y'all for ages now.
I'm experiencing the silence of a graveyard at Zorpia and it's kind of horrifying me... *shudders*
'Girl' mostly got the highest ranking especially when it came from a woman. ;0)
Some with a business acumen rated the sailer the highest and the girl lowest, for a reason that the sailor had a professional outlook towards life and believed in 'give & take'; but also lived up to his promise even by putting his life at stake. The girl at lowest because she was accepted as an emotional fool in pure business terms.
Some from this side of the hemisphere sensed a double meaning and therefore smelled something fishy in the friend's words.
Some didn't accept the fiance to be put at the bottom, according to whom any man with self-esteem will firstly react no different. (someone rated him one for similar reasons, mind you). So, it wasn't all so bad about the fiance.
Some rated the old man at the top as he showed utter selflessness in giving the right most advice, apt for the occasion, to an adult woman. Can you think of any better advice under the given situation?
At the end we all felt that there was no right and no wrong in this story and it all depended on how people looked at it.
Hope you're doing fine! Haven't spoken with y'all for ages now.
I'm experiencing the silence of a graveyard at Zorpia and it's kind of horrifying me... *shudders*
8/22/2009 3:51 AMRe: The Dilemma...
5/14/2009 6:54 PMRe: The Dilemma...
Debra
47, Beaverton, Oregon, United States
I like the old man the most because he gave the girl some wise advice.
The best friend is my second favorite for trying to help the girl feel better.
The girl is number 3 for me for caring about her boyfriend.
The boyfriend and the sailor are equally as bad for being users with no compassion.
An interesting dilemma for sure!
The best friend is my second favorite for trying to help the girl feel better.
The girl is number 3 for me for caring about her boyfriend.
The boyfriend and the sailor are equally as bad for being users with no compassion.
An interesting dilemma for sure!
5/16/2009 7:12 AMRe: The Dilemma...
I had more or less the similar preferences, Debra. But when I discussed this situation among my peer group they all had varied opinions.... and mind you, theirs were also valid in their own rights. According to few (mostly women) the girl was ranked '#one' as she did everything for her 'love'. To some the boyfriend stood #one among the five as he reacted the way any self-respected man would do. But I feel it came to the boyfriend as the locational advantage as different people from different parts of the world think, behave and opine differently.
6/4/2009 11:55 AMRe: The Dilemma...
Life is so precarious. We never know what it will bring to us. We must live each day as it unfolds.
I'm sorry I can't give your post the thought it requires this morning but I promise to return to it on a better day and give my thoughts on it.
Take care PG. God bless you and your beautiful family.
Hugs,
Dawn