Hi buddy! I don't feel so. Age is never a bar ...be it friendship, or any damn relationship. It's more about chemical equation between the two persons. whatsay...?

I had always thought differently....
Do you mean a relationship between 2 people with a 25 yr gap ?? Would you call that chemical equation ?? I call it sheer stupidity..

If you studied chemistry and zoology together ...you would understand about the chemicals in your brain that play all games. Whether it's love, hatred, anger, lust, greed...or whatever, the culprit is the same for all emotion-games. But if you studied literature, then it's impossible to explain to you. *LOL*

Hmmmmm....I'm an honors graduate in English Literature....
Quite difficult for me to understand then...

Don't give up yet! You have a long life ahead to experiment...ha..haa!

Huh !! I'm not in the mood for fresh experiments....

Enough is enough, huh? : P

When I first got married I was called a toy boy as my wife was 10 years older and every one said it wouldent work she is only after your money some 30 years later we are still together and no major problums yet I am glad to say so No its in the Mind that matters .

Lata: You'll change your view now ...I'm sure! What more evidence ...ehhh? LOL!

You're right...my views have changed....drastically...

Hahaa! That's one among the benefits of having company of learned people, if I'm not wrong! LOL...!!

Hmmm..learned people indeed !! [I'm eating my own words..lol]

Its a little long but worth reading xxx
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Does Age Really Matter In Dating?
Is Love Truly Ageless?
© Cherie Burbach

Aug 3, 2007

Will the number of years affect your relationship?

The question of age and relationships goes back to the beginning of time. For several years it was more accepted for older men to date younger women. Even in Hollywood today, the movies frequently show a much older man as the love interest for a woman that could be his daughter or even at times, granddaughter.

In reality, though, will the number of years between both of you hinder or help when it comes to your relationship? Here are some things to consider if you’re thinking of getting serious with someone from another generation.

Your Life Experience
Some people just seemlike a good fit, regardless of age. There are folks that remain young at heart throughout their lives. It would make sense that they’d be paired up with someone equally as youthful, both in terms of age and outlook. On the same note, an “old soul” is someone that always seems to be a bit more adult and thoughtful than his or her cohorts. These folks would naturally be better with someone who matched their level of maturity.

Point to ponder: Does your partner “seem” like your age, even though they differ from you by several years?
Your Common Interests
When people share the same types of hobbies and activities, their chance at relationship success drastically increases. In a partnership between an older and extremely younger person, the need to teach and learn from the other may be the initial source of attraction. This could result in one person continually “learning” (and therefore doing) the other’s favorite activities. Over time this can cause the younger individual to want to branch out and discover their own perferences.

Point to ponder: Before you take yourself off the market, make sure you both share more than just fascination with each other.
Your Level of Independence and Emotional Need
In a more “traditional” relationship, people age, mature, and progress at roughly the same pace. But in a relationship dominated by age difference, one person may need more emotional support while another may need independence. Perhaps your partner was in a long-term relationship and is now used to someone taking care of them, while you like the opportunity to be on your own once in awhile. Or maybe one person’s physical person will decline while the other remains healthy.

Point to ponder: As time marches on, your partner’s emotional needs may transform drastically. Can you cope with this change?
Your Long-Term Relationship Goals
When you first meet someone and hit it off, age really doesn’t seem to matter. As time goes on, however, the difference in years can make itself apparent when both of you want different things. Someone much older, for example, may already have children and not want to start a family. Someone that dates a much younger person may be ready to settle down and have to wait for their mate to feel ready for marriage and/or children. As time goes on, these issues only seem to magnify.

Point to ponder: If you and your significant other differ on the point of marriage and children, are you willing to give up or change your desire for family life?

I think sustenance of such odd relationships is rare. For instance, initially the younger counterpart may love the way the elder one treats her/him with extra care. Sooner than the later this becomes monotonous and irritating.

Love takes many forms and to tell the truth i dont even think about my wife being older as for it becomes monotonous and irritating if you are right for each other it dodent come into the frame.

Ohhhhh! I regret for having made a generic statement, Michael. There are exceptions always and mine is not the last word. I'd love to correct myself every such time.

Lost in a dance
Waiting for the chance
All I really needed was to love you
Night after night
Searchin' for the light
You saved me
You gave me something I could feel

Love is all that matters
Faithful and forever
Keepin' us together
Love is all we need
Prisoner of illusion
Sentence is suspended
Loneliness is ended
Love has set me free

Dreams from the past
Comin' true at last
Never noticed how my life was changing
Now I can see
All that love can be
You saved me
You gave me
Something that was real

Love is all that matters
Faithful and forever
Keepin' us together
Love is all we need
Prisoner of illusion
Sentence is suspended
Loneliness is ended
Love has set me free

Love is all that matters
Faithful and forever
Keepin' us together
Love is all we need
Prisoner of illusion
Sentence is suspended
Loneliness is ended
Love has set me free

So you believe, PG, that the Egyptian authorities were wrong to stop this 92 year old Saudi from marrying a 17 year old Egyptian girl?


http://ca.news.yahoo.com/s/afp/080614/world/egypt_marriage_offbeat

Nope! I'd never favor exploitation of one humanbeing by another in the name of God, religion, community, wealth, or anything. Wealthy men buying poor brides is as much an abuse as a cockroach eating another.
But if a 18-year (adult) woman consciously falls in love with a 92 year old using all her senses, I shouldn't mind.

In china ,sometimes it happen the same matter ,yesterday, i look a news, a almost 70 yeas old scientists married with a 20 years old girl,but they were felt very happiness together.although their age have a distance .they still can spend good life .in other words ,no matter he and she in between there is a gap.only they are love each other.

Love overcomes all barriers..but, sadly, it does not last most times...differences set in and then, it is all downhill..love flies out the window..

age is just that....a number....friendship and love doesn't reckonize age....although it has to be within the legal limits....ie: over 18

Allow me to improve upon this a tad: Legal limits are for marriages. Love and friendship are not bound by any age-limit.

and i totally agree...

Yeah...family acceptance plays a great role in the smooth running of relationships like this..but, if both the people involved realise and overcome this hurdle, there's nothing to stop them from having a wonderful marital life.

You said this piont of view i recoginzed ,but there is still less of the person who is such a.in a modern's socity ,In china,all of people tend to fall in love freedom, then at an early stage ,but our married by the parents in the master.so in accdorance with my piont of view ,as an age gap is beautiful.they can omeover lots of diffuilt. when you felt very tired ,she/he will take care of you ,and suport you.

Yes..but how can you be so sure that the spouse will take care of you and support you in your old age ?? Love is sometimes luck...only a very few get lucky in love..

I can not believe all this will be the love, but in today's society there is still retain

Nothing in life is permanent...btw, I'd like to know your name..

YOU said the right,love is not permament, my name is yuanzhen,you can call "jane"this is my english name.

Of course who wouldn't want to be taken care of instead of taking care of somebody else? This liberation is best achieved when you are single.

Getting married is not a way to freedom for most people. Getting married...is a way to slavery for life. You're talking about doing things that you don't wanna do for your spouse and your kids, giving up things that you used to like and do—for them, sacrifice your dreams and hopes—for them. For most, they're willing to do such things for the love of their spouses and children. For some, they find it very hard to do so they give up their family and go back to being single, these people are self absorbed!

In marriage, a man and a woman has each own responsibilities and obligations. Each must compromise with each other. If only one does it, then you're looking at a failed marriage. He/she should not think of only her/him self but think of both. Support each other. Each should give and take equally.

I regonized that you said the piniot of view.getting married is not a way ,sometimes it will let you feel very disgusted. once end the married ,you would have reponsibilities and abligations took care of your family and children.at the moment,as you will increase the pressure.because you will master of your family.so i do not want to get married too early.

You both have your points of view ...alright! but this is what gives you the purpose of life. You are believed to have a purpose, right?

Doing things for others gives you feeling of immense gratification .... especially when the other is your own. The mere thought of being able to do something for others gives you pleasure.

I do agree with what you say too...selflessness is one of the attributes one should have in a relationship. The feeling that we have done something good to the other person gives us immense joy....it surpasses any other emotion..

Isn't it imbued in the humanity itself?

I don't think so...if it is, why doesn't it manifest itself at all times and with all the people ??

Yeah..perfect health and a youthful mind is a motivating factor for such relationships to succeed..

I agree with both of you. Life will show its claws and teeth if the elder partner (could be either one ...on a second thought!) falls in the age-trap and somehow becomes bed-ridden or incapable. That should be the real test of true love between them.

hay guys...i just wanted to say that age will matter as only when a person would look at another and say exactly how old she/he is...but until then, age is just a number

Exactly Brandon. You have used these words beautifully to say what I always wanted to say. As long as the love prevails ...age will not matter to either of them. When one of them starts noticing the age difference .... it should be treated as end of relationship. The earlier understood the better!

Hi hi, everyone, a good example here. I am 25 (will be 26 in Aug). My fiance is 13 years older than me. It's kind of unacceptable in China according to the tradition. Most of older Chinese people said that 3 years difference between lovers would be the best (you can call it Match). So what?! I still love him, We still love each other! I mean, there's no gap of age between two lovers. I fell(haha, PG, it's ok to use fell here? :P) in love with the person not the person's age. That's right - Age is just a number!
~goose

Well..in India, it is acceptable if the woman is younger than the man, not the other way round..People's eyes literally pop out when they see an older woman with a young hubby.
And yes, you fall in love with the person irrespective of his/her age..