How many times have you REALLY been in love? You can call it "soulmate love," "real love," "heart-breaking love," whatever you use to call it, how many times have you found the kind of love that registered as bigger/deeper than all the other loves you'd had before?
How many times have you felt that big big love? Do you still have it or did you lose it? If you lost it, how long did you mourn it and what about it made it different from the rest? If you still have it, what do you do to nurture it and keep it strong or does it "run itself"? If you lost it, how did it happen and do you know what you'd have done differently? If you still have it, did you know it was "the real thing" right away or did it take you time to see/feel it?