Don't you hate dragging a load of luggage through an airport? How would you feel if you had to tote a couple of suitcases, backpacks, and carry-on bags everywhere you went? What torture! And you sure wouldn't get very far very fast.

Similarly, on the journey along God's way, you wont get very far fast if you are loaded down with a lot of emotinal baggage. The more junk you jetison from your past, the easier it will be to navigate through the future.

From time to time we all experience difficult, painful events and relationships. For example, someone hurts you physically or emotionally, your parents divorce or mate divorces you,  you make a serious  mistake that hurts someone, you lose a loved one in a tragic accident. Ideally, these painful events are resolved in good time. Offenses are confessed, offenders are forgiven, conflects are resolved, and the incidents is finised. We no longer have to carry those burdensome fears and feelings.

However, many times our hurts do not get resolved as they should. Pain is stuffed instead of dealt with. Offenders are not forgiven, fears are not confronted, conflicts are not resolved. In other words, there is no appropriate finishing. As a result, we carry with us from the past feelings and patterns of behavoir which impact our relationships and activities in the present, often in a negative way. Thats baggage, and baggage doesn't go away until it is dealt with or finished.

TIPS FOR FINISHING THE PAST  

God has wired us to process pain and disappointment as it happens in our lives. Most of us didn't know that as children;  so we have gragged suitcases full of unresolved issues into adulthood. Indeed, some of your baggage is directly related to the problems for which you are seeking God's way of help or healing. God will make a way for us, and part of that way involves helping us get rid of the baggage in ourlives.

AGREE THAT YOU HAVE A PAINFUL PAST.  

I have been seen people overcome all kinds of pain from their past with God's help; so I know i can. But i cant overcome anything until i admit that it exist. Until i acknowledge that painful things  have happened to me, things which that was not appropriately finished. I cannot work through them. And if i dont work through them, they will continue to disturb me in the present. So the first step to dealing with baggage is to confess to yourself  and to God that you have issues that must be dealt with.

INCLUDE OTHERS IN YOUR HEALING AND GRIEVING.  

Seek from others the care and healing that you need to finish whatever happened in the past. It begins with opening up your feelings to others about what happened in the past so they can comfort you, pray for you, and encourage you. Pouring out your hurt to others who love you open the door to the healing and support you need. God's process of healing our pain, hurt, and loss usually involves grieving.  Your tears, and the compassionate tears of those who love you, will help you let go of your baggage.

RECEIVE FORGIVENESS. 

Often the pain we drag into new situation is from a failue in the past. In order to get rid of your baggage, you need to be free of the guilt and shame of past mistakes, failures, and sins. Once you know you are totally accepted, forgiven, and loved, you can tackle life with gusto.

True love and forgiveness come from God. He promises to completely forgive you for anything and everything  you have ever done, no matter how bad you may feel it was. So if you feel badly about something you have done in the past, ask God to take it away from you. His forgiveness and grace are always available, ready to give another chances whenever you ask for it.

Your past failures and mistakes may have alienated you from some people as well as from God. Your hurtful words or damaging actions may have made you a few enemies. If so, God's way for you is to go to those people and make it right. Humbly confessing your wrong and receiving forgiveness from those you have hurt is a vital step to leaving your baggage behind.

FORGIVE OTHERS. 

Some of the baggae you carry is the result of  being hurt by others. You may be the victim of a parent's  lack of love and acceptance. Or perhaps you were betrayed by a spouse, abandoned by a friend, dishonered by a child, or misled by a spiritual leader. You were wronged in some way, and you still carry the pain, anger, and perhaps hatred from the offense.

If you are going to leave your baggage behind, you must forgive those who have wounded you. Take your cue from God, who has forgiven your sins. If you don't forgive, your resentment will continue to eat away at your heart and keep you from the freedom you seek on God's way.

Your forgiveness of others does not mean you deny that someone has hurt you, nor does it mean you must trust that person again. The future of your relationship depends on many factors. But forgiveness is about resolving the past. It is about clearing up what has already happened. It is about canceling the debt someone owes you. That's what it means to forgive. You are saying that the offender no longer owes you, that you are releasing him or her from all grudges, penalties and retribution.

So leave the baggage of the past hurts behind. Forgiveness is your ticket of freedom to go forward in your life.

EXAMINE YOUR WAYS. 

Another part of our baggage relates to patterns of behavior we learned in past, painful situations. You may have learned dysfunctional patterns for dealing with life, relationships, risk, and love, and these patterns are causing you problems now and holding you back from what God has for you. Take a close look at how you live. If you have trouble allowing people to get close to you, examine that pattern to see how it is limiting your relationships. If you tend to avoid conflict, examine that pattern to see how it is actually prolonging conflict. If you have learned to avoid any risk in an attempt to control your environment, notice how that pattern has imprisoned you.

Behavior patterns from your past maybe ruining your present life. Examine your ways of dealing with people and problems which may be trapping you in the past. Allow God to make a way for you into a better future by helping you let go of the patterns of the past. 

SEE YOURSELF THROUGH NEW EYES. 

Another kind of baggage we carry around is the distorted view of ourselves we learned in past relationships or situations. We see ourselves through the people who love us and sometimes through the eyes of those who we don't. Our self-concept is a relational vission. We tend to look at ourselves through the eyes of others who are important to us. This why some people suddenly blossom in healthy new relationships where they are valued as God's creation. It is also how other people grow to loathe themselves in relationships where they are devalued and mistreated.

How do you see yourself? Is your self-view realistic? Is it balanced with streghths and value as well as weaknesses and growth areas? Do you see yourself as loved?

If you are going to move forward in your life and find God's way for you, you must to see yourself realistically through the eyes of those who really love you. Begin by taking a look at yourself through God's eyes, for he loves you uncondionally and values you highly. Add to this the images you get from your dearest and most trusted relationships those who love you as God does. This new you will begin to replace the distorted picture that has caused you such grief.

LEAVE THE PAST IN THE PAST 

In the Bible, when God rescued Lot and his wife from wicked Sodom and Gomorrah, he warned them against looking back. But Lot's wife was unable to let go of people and things in her past. S he looked back and turned into a pillar of salt {Genesis 19:17-26}. Jesus used her as an example when teaching us to let go of harmful things that keep us from him.

Holding on to the baggage of the past will disable us from our journey with God. His way out is to deliver you from the hurt, unforgiveness, and disfunctional patterns of our past. Ask God to show us how to leave our baggage behind....

Contemporary sex authorities use only the fingers of both hands to account for the major and ancillialay sexual positions, not because they overlooked counting the dramatic multitude executable in the aforesaid contraption, but perhaps more to indicate the world of love to br explored. man possition are the following..........

1. FACE -TO-FACE

A.) MAN ON TOP a.k.a. "MISSIONARY"....

The woman lies on her back with her legs spread apart, either drawn up or straight out.

The man lies facing her, between her thighs. In the notable variant " Coital Alignment Technique" or Cat, rather than supporting his weight on forearms, he rests his upper body on the woman and they make love with a slow rocking motion, not thrusting.

B.) WOMAN ON TOP

Here the woman usurps the male role and she sits astride the man or lie down on him like the man would in the preceding position. She has every possibility for vigorous movement while the man lies more or less passively. Some couples roll from the man on top to the woman on top or vice versa.

C.) SIDE BY SIDE

Lying on their sides, the position may be varied with the possitioning of the woman's legs, with both of them around the man's legs, or with the woman's lower leg held between the man's legs. Because neither party must support the weight of the other, they are good for prolonged sexual conditoins.

D.) STANDING

The man backs the woman against a wall or, if he is strong, carries her with her legs wrapped around his waist.

E.) SITTING

The man sits, the woman stands facing with her legs spread, and then lowers herself slowly until his penis penetrates her. She then settles into a sitting position or locks her legs around his body.

2. BACK FACING

This also comes under the alias rear entry. To permit the man to approach her from behind to enter the vagina, the woman may lie on her stomach or on her side, bend forward, or knee; on her hands and knees [ doggy fashion]. Or she may sit on his thighs. This latter position is called "PBA position" by some wags because it allows both parties to give their attention to watching the popular telivision series, at the time.

3. SIDE FACING

Her, the woman is poised half-turned on her side facing away as he enters with one of her legs between his and the other more or less bent forward.

A familiarity with these basic coital postures, how to use them in series, plus a liberal attitude towards experimentation, are probably implicit in the concept or sexual sophistication. Commentators add that the attraction to try out a new position stems mostly from its novelty and it is not uncommon for a couple to go back to their usual repertoire after the experience.

EXOTIC VARIATISM

The variety of sexual positions is effectively limited by the agility of the performers.

There are many positions it is impossible to execute even supposing the joints and loins of the candidates for the joys of Venus are more flexible than can be believed. By dint of pondering and reflection more ideas occur to the fancy than it is practicable to realize. Nothing is inconvinceivable to the longings of an unbridled will; nothing difficult to a furious mind and unregulated imagination. Love will find out a way; and on ardent fancy level mountains. Only the body is unable to comply everything the mind, good or bad, suggests.

Therefore, i leave it to your fancy to decide which is and which is not practicable to realize in the following positions.

MANNER THE SECOND ----- If your member is a short one, let the woman lie on her back, lift her legs into the air, so that her right leg be near her right ear, and the left one near her leaf ear, and in this posture, with her buttocks lifted up, the vulva will project forwarded. Then put in your member.

MANNER THE THIRD---- Let the woman stretch herself upon the ground, and place yourself between her thighs, then pitting one of her legs upon your shoulder, and the other under your arm near the armpit, get into her.

MANNER THE SEVENTH.----- Place the woman on her side, and squat between her thighs, with one of her  legs on your shoulder and the other between your thighs, while she remains lying on her side, then enter her vagina, and make her move by drawing her towards your chest by means of your hands, with which you hold her embraced.

MANNER THE TENTH--- Place the woman near to a low divan, the back of which she can take hold of  with her hands; then, getting under her, lift her legs to the height of your navel, and let her clasp you with her legs on each side of your body; in this position plant your verge into her, seizing with your hands the back of the divan. When you begin the action your movement must respond to those of the woman.

AROUSING LIBIDO  (KISS AND TELL)    

This is not the place for the formulation of how-to theory of seduction, just the sampling of literature which seems worthwhile in this case. Once a woman grants a man her lips she may refuse him nothing. Can a man but reach so far, no door shall be barred to him. A woman who will be kissed will be taken and loved. Indeed the kiss, described by some as the language of love and by others as the contact pf two thirty-foot tubes each two-thirds filled with faces, is a compelling tool in arousing libido. It is the natural staging point for greater things as it is a reliable barometer to a woman's sexual temperament.

So you shall take her in your arms and kiss her, and by her kiss she shall tell you all of her secrets. If she pushes you off, but pushes you weakly or without her full strength, then she protests but still desires love, and such woman  are to be taken by force until their holes melt from the asault.

If she neither resists nor responds, but endures your kiss with slight pleasure, know then that she is slow  to arouse and of slim passions. Such women are to be dealt with slowly,  to be kissed and  stroked for hours, and to be futtered with long slow strokes, in and out of their clinging cunnuses, until the lips of their vaginas tremble with contentment.

Then you shall probe her mouth with your tongue. Should she resist this, know that she is not a woman who lives for kisses, and will relish them no more between her legs than between her lips, but proceed directly to coition. If she meets your tongue with hers, and pleasures in the depth of  the kiss rejoice for such women are passionate, and will futter endlessly from dusk to daybreak.

And if her lips close around your tongue,  and if she sucks hard upon your tongue as a babe upon the breast, doubly rejoice for such a women are rare and born doubly to be cherished for they are born for fellatio, and will lick eagerly at a man's scepter,  yearning to embrace it, and they will suck your penis all night long and swallow your semen until you beg for mercy.

From this mouth to mouth kissing and manual fonding of the breast you shall then turn your attention lower. Let your hand brush over her thighs while you continue to kiss her mouth. She shall tremble with appreciation. Shift in her hands so that your lips may seek her breast to take up where your hands have abandoned. Kiss them in turn, addressing them as you would address her lips or her lower lips with your lips and tongue, licking and sucking as you will.

Then let your fingers stray to the source of her pleasure. If her hand pushes yours aside, or if she stiffens in your arms, you have gone too swiftly; be thus better guided in the future. If she must draw her hand to the spot herself, you have tarried too long; be not so slow in your next attempt.

First touch the bud of the rose and then the petals below, until at last you touch the heart of the lotus blossom. But still rain kisses upon her breasts, though not a much as before. And move your body yet again, so that your scepter touches first her thighs and then rubs the bud of the rose, and all the while let your fingersstir her depths. And then let your sword do as you hands have done, but slowly, by degrees, and neither too fast nor too slow lest she free herself of the passion you have stoked within her furnace. And as your sword replaces your hand, let your hand do as your sword has done and dally once more with her little bud. Then you may make the shape of the bow so that you continue with your mouth to her breast, playing the infant and the father at one time, or you may straigthen in her arms and kiss her mouth but as you probe her more deeply, and as you stir her and as you redouble the force of your stabbing and piercing, then let your hands and your mouth be still at last for by then she shall be yours with her whole heart, and you may work upon her with your lance and stir her to her depths.